Emotional Eating: It isn’t all emotional

Not all Emotional Eating is Emotional

“Food understands me” says one of my clients in a larger body. I am taken slightly aback.

She has been struggling to explain why she continues to eat when she is full and why she cannot stop eating her treats.

Like millions of people struggling with their weight Ms S is not impressed by the body positivity movement, and even after trying multiple diets she continues to wish that there was something that will help her lose weight and keep it off. She is pre diabetic and she wants to live a healthy life to see her grandkids grow up.

She calls herself an emotional eater,  and the pandemic only made things worse. As a single professional forced to work from home during the pandemic, she claims that she is lonely and her weight increases her sense of not fitting in.  As a busy mum she often resorts to takeaways and ready meals to feed her children, and she compensates for times she can’t be with them properly by giving them sweets that she eats herself.  Despite knowing that her habits are wrecking her health, she cannot stop.

So, she berates herself and calls herself weak-willed and even a food addict.


Like many emotional eaters, Ms S doesn’t know why or how to switch from emotional eating to eating based on her biological hunger signals. She has seen a counsellor once before who spent a lot of time asking about her childhood and telling her “it’s not really about food so we don’t need to talk about it. So, she has been given no food diary to complete and she has had no nutritional guidance. She would not want it anyway because she knows everything there is to know about calories but this is not enough to help her make the best choices.

She does not know that not all emotional eating is emotional.

1 Her hunger can be biologically driven.

Hunger is experienced in the brain and is not always recognised as a strong drive to “have lunch”.   There are two main hunger pathways: the homeostatic pathway and the hedonic pathway. The homeostatic pathway is our biological hunger pathway and is driven by the need for energy in calories and nutrients that help us function. Conversely, hedonic eating is pleasure-driven and uses pleasure signals to “bypass” the physical hunger/satisfaction signals.

These signals interact with each other, so that you can get all you need in the way of nutrients and energy but if there is little pleasure associated with it, you might still need to eat – sooner rather than later.

Many factors disrupt the normal appetite pathways, such as stress levels; and many medical conditions, including, but not limited to obesity, diabetes, hormonal problems such as Polycystic Ovary Syndrome. Such factors as insulin resistance and inflammation are a common link in these conditions.  Insulin resistance – that can be the result of years of unhelpful eating, are linked to these hormones and can block some signals deep in the brain that signal us to stop eating for now or signals that tell us that there is enough fat in our body.

Still where physiology is concerned, mental health conditions may disrupt levels of neurotransmitters such as serotonin (that controls sugar hunger) and dopamine (that controls sugar and fat hunger can also cause appetite changes. When a person cannot “feel” these hormones in the brain, they  might become miserable enough to turn to food to feel a little better.

The  Power of Food Scale readings (researchers have access but few counsellors in the field) show that many people in larger bodies have high brain activity in the visual cortex when they see highly palatable foods. I do not think this is a surprise, because we are all attuned to being excited about palatable food. But these exciting signals are much stronger in people who are nutritionally depleted.

2 Other hormonal Issues

Sex hormones can have a big effect on emotional eating and this can be tied to states of mind as well. People report eating more pre-menstrually or at middle age where females experience a decline in oestrogen and males a drop  in testosterone.  Hormones can disrupt the availability and absorption of key nutrients such as  calcium, magnesium and phosphorous that affect the hunger centres of the grain. It is not surprising that some people crave chocolate at these times . And this isn’t surprising, as cacao is rich in iron and other minerals, so,  chocolate is addressing a physical and emotional need.

3 The Role of a Dieting History

Dieters do much more eating in  any kind of emotional situation than non-dieters.  This is not necessarily just when emotions are bad. It can be when the food is simply there or when a person is sitting on the sofa next to their family enjoying a movie. We do not fully understand this powerful driver of emotional eating. We just notice that this is true.

4 The Role of Mindless Eating

People may eat mindlessly for all sorts of reasons. Some are too busy to sit down, others eat in the car or while putting the food shop away. Some eat fast because that’s how they learned to eat in childhood. Some people living with obesity eat fast because they are too guilty about eating so they want to block it from their awareness.  Mindless eating simply is not recognised by the brain as being a real meal or snack.  This was demonstrated in a landmark study by Health Psychologists at the University of Surrey. They showed that families who ate lunch on their knees in front of the television ate 3 times as much snack food as people who ate at the table.  For an updated take on the effects of mindless eating, listen to this https://link.chtbl.com/s9cwxMzY

5 The Role of Their Emotions

Emotional eaters have strong emotional connections to food that in extreme cases we can call a co-dependency. Here are some of the questions we therapists ask.

Why is it that some people feel a sense of extreme loss and despair if they cannot get their comfort foods?

Why is it that they feel deeply deprived if they see others eat that new ice cream? 

Why is it that some people can wait a while to eat a treat food while others have to eat it now?

Why does someone say, I KNOW what I should be eating but I somehow just cant do it?

It needs to be pointed out that a great deal of emotional eating is normal.  In her various books, Suzie Orbach suggests that we all eat for reward, because we deserve something in the moment, to quell anxiety, because others are with us; we eat in case we get hungry later, and because it feels nice and gives us a small dopamine hit when something tasty is in the mouth.  The roots of this kind of “normal” emotional eating may (or not) have its roots in childhood. Counsellors should not assume that something else is wrong. In other words, emotional eating can become a habit, or it could be a response to trauma or poor early attachments. We must not assume.

Emotional eating can also be associated with our values. This is where people overeat on holiday because it is important to “let go” and where others overeat in restaurants because they are lulled by alcohol or it is the only way they have a good time there.

Emotional eating should not also be confused with binge eating, although binge eaters also describe themselves as managing their feelings through the abuse of food and their other strategies such as purging. In the same way as emotional eaters without an eating disorder, binge eaters may also overeat because of disruptions in their hunger and satiation pathways.

6 The role of unhelpful thinking.

While counsellors and sufferers alike point the finger at emotions when they explain emotional eating, trained specialists know that a lot of what we call “eating your feelings” is caused primarily by their thoughts. Thoughts come first, feelings afterwards.

For example, if someone eats a forbidden food and tells themselves “I’ve blown it, I may as well carry on eating (and be very good tomorrow)” – a single lapse can escalate into a full- blown episode of overeating. Thinking that one must “cut back afterwards” can cause further overeating because of anxiety or shame. Even having thoughts such as “I’m stuffed so that must mean I have eaten too much” can also give rise to overeating, either as a rebellion against the punishment to come, or because of fears of weight gain.

Among people who claim emotional eating is responsible for their problems, we can identify all sorts of unhelpful thoughts that provoke their problems, such as believing that dieting is the best way to lose weight, or that fat makes you fat (and so you should not eat it and you are a bad person if you do).

Unhelpful thinking – in respect of old associations with food, can also play its part in emotional eating. The client who is driven to eat bread and marmalade might be trying to retrieve old, pleasant memories of spending time with grandparents. Ole memories of eating may invoke happy or deeply toxic memories of food. To some extent our eating, or overeating can be an attempt to reconnect with, or run away from the memories in our mind.

The links between “emotional eating” and eating as a direct response to unhelpful automatic thinking must be understood by anyone working with a comfort eater. By attending only to the emotional life and the adversities that lie beneath, the therapist might be missing some very important information

It is the thinking about emotional eating and what it “means” to each client that is the problem. Small violations of dietary rules can lead to large amounts of guilt, shame and negative self-talk.  People believe that name calling will help but it usually makes things worse. It takes informed cognitive styles of therapy to deal with “stinking thinking” in tandem with whatever else needs to be done to manage historic adversity that “might” play a part.

The Solutions

There is no single reason why someone is an emotional eater. Many of the reasons above are acting together. This list of strategies is not exhaustive and needs greater understanding.

1 .Treat biological causes that impact physiologic hunger and trigger emotional eating. The depleted client will not respond to psychological treatment so this needs priority.

2. Treat unhelpful eating styles such as rushing food or eating while doing other things. How a person eats can be as important as WHY they eat in a particular way.

2. Triggers: Address patterns, places/people, with problem solving skills and other skills such as problem-solving, stress management,  flexibility, and a compassion focus. You might need to work on relationships since other people can encourage overeating too.

3. Transition to non-food rewards; but this takes time, practice and work on self-esteem to make non-food rewards attractive and deserved. 

4 All emotional eaters need to work on managing cravings,  impulses and the thinking that follows lapse events.  A compassion focus is one good way to manage cravings and help the person to calm down and take stock of what else is going wrong.

5 Emotional resilience training helps people to find more effective ways of managing their feelings and also having fun with food – but not too much!  This therapy approach helps people to know what they feel (without shame or avoidance) and take appropriate action without needing another fix. Trauma work might be indicated in some people to take account of high emotions and hypervigilance. But this alone will only go part of the way to treating excessive levels of “emotional eating”.

6 Cognitive styles of therapy are needed for unhelpful thinking.

7 Medication and surgery are an option for people with medical risk associated with high levels of emotional eating. They can work well, but are not a substitute for addressing the psychosocial aspects of emotional eating.

Deanne Jade, May 2023

Hadley Freeman Anorexia

Hadley Freeman has written a searing account of her anorexia and her change in the Sunday Times. I don’t use the word “Recovery” because this word doesn’t quite capture what for many of us was not “getting better” but making different decisions about how we want to live. Me too.

So, the anorexia isn’t something that goes away, it’s unhelpful to talk about “recovery” in the same way as we talk about recovery from measles.  it is a part of us, we have too many memories of it and sometimes it tries to persuade us that we will be happier if we embrace it. But we know it is a lie. So when recently, even 50 years later, I lost weight through an illness, I loved my thinness. But I did everything possible to bring my body back to a normal BMI. Even ice cream for lunch when my appetite was poor.

I would not like Hadley to be grabbed to be the poster girl for recovery by all the eating disorder organisations there.  I would urge her not to be seduced into going to schools and telling everyone about her painful experiences and “If I can get better so can you”.  I caution her against getting on a soapbox flaunting her lived experience and demanding more money and resources for treatment better than what she had at these terrible hospitals.

Why not?

Because I think that throwing money at eating disorder treatment is a partial waste. Hadley showed clearly that putting people into an eating disorder unit can make them immeasurably worse. The bullying, the ugly competition to the be the sickest, the tricks they learn, the helpless therapists, I have seen it, over and over again.   In services I have supervised, I see people get into therapy and do everything they can to sabotage their therapists and miss sessions that could be used by other people.  So, the definition of madness is to do the same thing and expect a different outcome. Money poured down the drain.

It means that before we scream for more funds we must be clear about how we would like these funds to be used. If you think this means more eating disorder units there would be hollow laughter from me. Really?

Hadley wrote what we all know. Anorexia may be something to be endured for as long as it takes for someone to wake up one day and know that they want something different out of life. The ONLY thing that helps is a therapist who is trained to recognise this and show their understanding of the snake, the Voice, the noises in the head.  We can make tweaks to all this and wait until the new understanding seeps through the carapace of the anorexic condition.  Other than that – all we can do is to keep a starving person alive until they are bored enough to wonder whether life can offer them something else.

In Australia, efforts are being made to develop a first-aid service for carers, professionals and people in the community. To catch young people early before anorexia becomes entrenched. I wait with interest to see what that is, because catching it early seems to be the one thing that works well. Meanwhile if you are suffering and you don’t like the label “chronic” then find out what label you prefer. If you like being chronic, then don’t ask for help and live or die as you choose. Some people thrive on making a fetish of their mental health past (calling it advocacy) – well perhaps it is. But I worry that if people define themselves as having mental health issues, this reinforces their identity. They can choose to move on.

But back to Hadley. I noticed her first because she has  the courage not to toe the woke line where it comes to issues like gender, pronouns, and other issues of the day.  I love how her mind works. I hope she isn’t seduced into become a poster child for anorexia. The best medicine is to move on, live well, travel the world, volunteer for a different charity,  see nature- leave your  computer and embrace other things.

COACHES CAN

COACHES CAN

The Guardian article regarding the suitability of coaches for working with eating disorder persons has raised a lot of angst. Out of the woodwork pour well-meaning academics, authors and persons with lived experience who regard themselves as the mouthpiece for eating disorder sufferers. 

The Guardian journalist had a clear agenda for her article, and for her Editors, this was to “awfulize” the phenomenon of “untrained” coaches working with eating disorders. She targeted NCFED because we refer people to professional coaches – and nutritionists without qualifications in psychology. When she interviewed me she heard things with did not chime well with her agenda because we told her that all our Network have been thoroughly trained, supervised, properly tested and grounded in working safely. She had not expected to hear this –  I think that this has caused her discomfort. But she had to follow her agenda to its conclusion and so, here we are.

I agree that there are thousands of people out there who claim to treat eating disorders who have done little or no training. Attending an eating disorder course, certificates or not does not make you a safe eating disorder or obesity therapist.

But there is no one from the counselling or psychology authorities who are prepared to say what is enough.

There is a familiar trope that eating disorder patients are “vulnerable” and “deserving only of a qualified psychotherapist with the right qualifications”. I agree with this to an extent.

BUT

There are arguably about 12 million people in the UK who qualify for having an eating disorder, most undisclosed because they are not seen to be at death’s door.  This is the vast army of compulsive eaters and serial dieters including many who also purge. Among this hidden tsunami of sufferers are many not particularly vulnerable. Their dieting efforts have had unintended consequences and they are otherwise as normal as anyone else. I do not agree with pathologizing everyone who has an eating disorder.  I do not want to tell my patients that they are mentally ill. Poor body image is normal and a culture-bound, not a mental health issue in most of us.

A coach who learns the basic principles of cognitive behaviour therapy applied to eating issues is a very good choice to help lead most eating disorder patients back to a better relationship with food and a flourishing life. You see, even for so called psychotherapists, eating disorder therapy is largely a coaching role. The strategies taught by the Maudsley, such as reducing rigidity are coaching tasks, framed as “behaviour therapy”.

I would even go so far as to say that coaches are BETTER trained to help guide a person toward a flourishing life. Therapists approach their patients from the perspective of “what is wrong with you!” while coaches ask the question “how can I help you to live better going forward”.

So, I am on the side of our coaches. Give them a good enough grounding in the principles of CBT and help them know when to call on additional troops and they often do better than academic psychotherapists.

Ozempic and similar drugs

Ozempic and risk of thyroid and pancreatic cancer? Reproduced from an article on Medscape March 2023

Ozempic works by affecting expression of GLP1 – a pancreatic hormone that boosts the effects of insulin, slows gastric emptying, and affects some of the appetite increasing chemicals in the brain. The weight loss effects of Ozempic are impressive, so long as people keep injecting.

A few years ago, alongside American (FDA) approval of GLP-1 agonists, a warning accompanied the products’ labels to not use this class of medications in patients with medullary thyroid cancer, a family history of medullary thyroid cancer, or multiple endocrine neoplasia syndrome type 2. This warning was based on data from animal studies.

Human pancreatic cells aren’t the only cells that express GLP-1 receptors. These receptors are also expressed by parafollicular cells (C cells) of the thyroid, which secrete calcitonin and are the cells involved in medullary thyroid cancer. A dose-related and duration-dependent increase in thyroid C-cell tumour incidence was noted in rodents.  But not in monkeys.

Over a decade ago, a study examining the FDA’s database of reported adverse events found an increased risk for thyroid cancer in patients treated with exenatide, another GLP-1 agonist but subsequent studies did not confirm this relationship.

A LEADER TRIAL in the USA investigated the effects of liraglutide in patients with type 2 diabetes and showed no effect of GLP-1 receptor activation on human serum calcitonin levels, C-cell proliferation, or C-cell malignancy. F

Differing from prior studies, a recent nationwide French healthcare system study provided newer data suggesting a moderate increased risk for thyroid cancer in a cohort of patients with type 2 diabetes who were taking GLP-1 agonists. The increase in relative risk was noted for all types of thyroid cancer in patients using GLP-1 receptor agonists for 1-3 years.

The drug companies have offered a perspective on  the limitations of these findings, we must note that declarations of interest offer may bias any findings against  these drugs. You may wish to look up the work of Caroline Thompson and Til Sturmer if you want to learn more.

So, without going into detail about risk, and type of tumour that have attracted warnings, the jury is still out. For example this is one question that has attracted controversy.

Is a detection bias present where weight loss makes nodules more visible on the neck among those treated with GLP-1 agonists? And/or are patients treated with GLP-1 agonists being screened more stringently for thyroid nodules and/or cancer?

Advice to Patients taking Ozempic

The TikTok videos may continue, the celebrity chatter may increase, and doctors must continue to make their own judgement about decision-making and guidance for our patients.
There may be risks both of thyroid and pancreatic cancer but we don’t yet know for whom and why and dose dependency.

It’s prudent to advise patients that if they have a personal or family history of medullary thyroid cancer or multiple endocrine neoplasia syndrome type 2, in particular, they should avoid using Ozempic and any similar medication. Thyroid cancer remains a rare outcome, and GLP-1 receptor agonists remain a very important and beneficial treatment option for the right patient.

Weight-loss tricks and calorie nonsense

Weight loss, tricks, keto diets and calorie nonsense

Today I heard on the radio that eating a handful of nuts daily is associated with longevity, short term weight loss and long term weight control. Really!  All that fat!  All those calories! And yes, ‘tis true.

When we eat processed food, we circumvent the natural satiety mechanisms that start with the gut. When we eat, our gastric fundus and intestinal stretch receptors start the process that informs the hypothalamus about food intake. The hypothalamus is crucial for weight control, it is where “set weight” is located. That is what level of fat our brain wishes our body to house. It is where appetite control is located and  this is  affected by many different hormones.

Highly processed foods are usually devoid of fibre and volume, they pack in the calories in small volumes so that the stretch receptors are not activated until more calories are ingested. I know of a research study that offered developed two diets with the same number of calories, sugar, fat, and carbohydrate content — one ultra-processed and the other unprocessed. People on the ultra-processed diet gained weight, the other did not.

As said, a lot more than primitive stretch receptors is informing the brain. There are gut hormones that are secreted before and after meals, such as ghrelin, glucagon-like peptide 1 (GLP-1), glucose-dependent insulinotropic polypeptide (GIP), and cholecystokinin (CCK), among a slew of others. These peptide hormones are all secreted from gut cells into the blood or vagus nerve, or both, and alert the brain that there is, or is not enough NUTRITION and ENERGY to maintain body weight at its set point.

The interface between all these receptors and chemicals is a highly regulated and precise system that regulates body weight for survival of the species in this environment. This environment has changed over the past 100 years but our genetic makeup for survival of the fittest has not.  We don’t fully understand why all over the world human beings are being regulated at a higher set point. It is happening in China, in Russia, in the West. Everywhere; and it starts in childhood.

Most likely, there are many players or instigators involved, such as food-supply changes, sedentary lifestyle, ambient temperature (central heating), foetal programming, air quality, and global warming and climate change, to name a few.

There are many players in the obesity and appetite field. Obesity Researchers investigate the underlying mechanisms of the increased prevalence of obesity over the past 100 years.

Obesity Medicine specialists and endocrinologists translate this research into medical and drug treatments for adults and children who are “overweight” such as the wonder drug Semaglutide (Ozempic) that tweaks a pancreatic hormone GPP-1 and affects energy expenditure. This and other medications have been shown to help “reverse” the metabolic adaptation to this environment.

Nutritionists, doctors, therapists, pseudo-experts and quacks translate this research into diet plans such as the Keto diet to prevent obesity as much as possible, together with lifestyle change. Added to this are  psychological interventions that are proposed to affect our use of food for emotional regulation.

What Works?

The body is smarter than the pill. The body’s normal reaction to a lack of calorie intake is to reduce resting energy expenditure until body weight increases back to “set point levels.” The new drugs like Semaglutide interfere with that metabolic adaptation to energy deficits and allow us to think of obesity as a metabolic disease. Drugs will hold the disease in check for just as long as they are taken.

As for diets. We all know the relationship between diets, cravings and rebound binge eating. Setting that aside for one moment, diets also don’t work long-term with only 5% of dieters managing to sustain weight loss. Nutritionists and slimming consultants worldwide must stop focusing on fat and calorie control, using diet sheets that will provoke short-term weight loss. There has been a lot of publicity (and money made) about the Keto diet – so is it different from the rest?

Apart from all the health claims made about the Keto diet, it is a diet like any other.  The ketogenic diet can fool the brain temporarily by using protein and fat to elicit satiety with less food intake in calories. After a while, however, gut hormones and other factors begin to counteract the weight loss with a reduction in resting energy and total energy expenditure, and other metabolic measures, to get the body back to a certain body weight set point.

The ketogenic diet works in part because it helps dieters to eat less ultra- and highly processed foods. If you can adjust your eating to reduce these foods (and eat nuts) ANY diet will do much the same for you. But Keto has no better long-term outcome than any other diet.

We have to make changes for life that involve closing the metabolic gap that the body generates to defend fat mass.  That means at the heart of it, eating foods that do not cause frequent big insulin spikes and working on diversifying the bacteria in the gut to reduce inflammation. Effortful? Yes. But what choice is there.

To be able to make those changes takes understanding, stop using stigma as an excuse to deny that obesity is a problem, make many small changes and get families on board. There is no quick fix for a metabolic “disease state” and there is no medicine that will work forever.

Does ADHD AhDD up?

Does ADHD AhDD up?

Dominic Lawson writes in the Times that we may be too willing to create for ourselves an “illness identity”.

A gaggle of celebrities have come out to claim that they have ADHD and I see many people in the counselling professions “come out” as neurodiverse, because they fit some of the symptoms. If symptoms are a marker of neurodiversity, then half the population would join the club of fidgeters, daydreamers, sensitives, people prone to careless mistakes, nerds, people who are clumsy ; people who just don’t like piped music in restaurants, and people who are overwhelmed when asked to carry out instructions.

There are many different ways of being a normal human being, and the person who is sensitive is no more mentally ill than the person who is an emotional oaf. Is your child simply naughty or one who is labelled with “oppositional defiance”. Self-diagnosis is not OK nor is diagnosing your client, because you would need a proper assessment of your purported neurological condition, done by a suitably qualified psychiatrist.

In 2017, Professor Simon Wellesley argued against trending in psychology. Neurodiversity is the current trend and there is no such thing as normal or neurotypical. Every time we have a Mental Health Awareness week, my spirits sink,  he said. We don’t need more awareness, we cant deal with the ones who are already aware. All we do is stretch and demoralise our mental health services. He pointed to a recent poll in which students self -diagnosed as having mental health problems. You have to think – he said, this is unlikely. They don’t need counselling or medication; they simply need to disconnect their phones or get away from their computers for a few hours every day.

It is unhealthy in society when normal difficulties and challenges in life due to the vast array of human variances, are pathologized and pushed into the realms of sickness. It has removed focus from helping those with real and disabling illnesses.

The effect of social media, counselling trends and the effects of peering into our smartphones or tablets all the time, will be to multiply the number of people who believe that they have ADHD, autism and the like. So countless people will join the ever-lengthening queue for adult mental health services. Or blame their problems on their brains.

Could we find a way to de-pathologise something within the normal range of behaviour and character of human beings?  Fewer of us have a mental health condition than we think.

Strong Fixations

We see a lot of hyperfixation in eating disorder work

How do Fixations Show Up?

  • People are fixated about the quality of food – is it clean, does it contain meat or dairy, is it good for me?
  • Fixated about the calories in food.
  • Fixated about aspects of the body, my stomach is marginally rounder, my thighs are too big.
  • Fixated about weight: I weight 3 lbs more than I should, I look fat, so I am fat.
  • Fixated about people “thinner than me” or, in the case of body builders, “stronger” than me or do more exercise than me.
  • Fixated about people, such as we have a patient fixated with the opinions of a medical mystic who claims to get his information from the spirit world (and maybe he does).
  • Fixated about what I ate today, was it too much, how can I deal with that tomorrow or punish myself.
  • Fixated about the opinions of other people, who must be destroyed if they have alternative points of view

How do we understand the fixated patient?

Fixations are beliefs that are strongly wired into the brain and they connect to the “alarm centres of the brain” – the amygdala. Obeying your fixations is one way to stop the alarm centres from firing off. So having a fixation and obeying its rules is one way of staying safe in someone who would otherwise be too anxious. The fixation is thus a way of being safe and woe betide us for trying to take it away.

So we understand fixations as belonging to someone with an underlying problem with anxiety.  But we need to ask ourselves, is this anxiety just part of the personality, or it is welling up from deeper irrational beliefs about the self.  For example, if I believe deep down that I am a disgusting or immoral individual, I might become very fixated on eating “clean” or “vegan” so that I don’t have to experience that unwelcome feeling of being “dirty inside.” 

Deep and negative beliefs are installed inside us at a very early age, often before we have words or even memories of them.  So normal psychotherapy often doesn’t root them out. People with low levels of anxiety might say oh I ate a burger today, it wasn’t what I would choose but, it’s no big deal for once. But the fixated individual would consider it a tragedy. Psychologists call this kind of anxiety reducing behaviours “schema avoidance”.

Hyperfixation is a self-fulfilling prophecy. The more you obey or run the fixations, the stronger they become and the more fearful we become of doing the opposite of the compelling voice in our heads. We see this for example in people who exercise excessively. They may KNOW that it is OK to take a day off, but it just doesn’t happen.

There was once a young anorexic girl fixated on her daily exercise, she fell of her bike, fractured her  pelvis and was taken to hospital in an ambulance. When she was left alone on the gurney, she slipped out, and although in terrible pain, she went for a run around the block. Unsurprisingly, she was put on a Mental Health Section.

Another of my clients was fixated on alternative therapy as a cure for her cancer, shunned chemotherapy and declared that “doctors don’t know what they are doing”. She died.

I see fixations all around me, in anti-vaxxers, in conspiracy theorists, with activism on social media.  Some individuals hyperfixate on a person such as a guru or a terrorist. One thing is common to all of them; they are impervious to rational argument or to persuasion.  They may be benign or dangerous to themselves and they can be a nuisance or dangerous to other people.

Fixation as a Symptom

Fixations are described also as monomanias and can be a symptom of

Autism Spectrum
OCD
Schizophrenia
Depression
Anxiety Disorders

Unhelpful strategies include giving evidence to the contrary – such as persuading the person that their guru is a scammer or that “fat can be associated with diabetes”.  Telling someone that they are wrong or trying to stop them from preaching their opinions does not help.

There was once a religious sect in the 18th century who believed that Armageddon was to happen on a particulate day and time. They gathered together to pray and wait for the Apocalypse that didn’t happen. Did they change their view? Not at all. One half believed that the Apocalypse had happened and they were already living in a world-like heaven. The other half decided that the Lord was so impressed with their prayers, that He had put it off for now.

Psychologists have tools for managing fixations. This includes Cognitive Therapy. Cognitive therapy instals doubt and also addressed the value of holding on to the belief – in what way is this belief USEFUL to you? Trauma Therapy such as Eye Movement Sensitisation and Reprocessing, EFT (Tapping) and techniques from NLP can be helpful.

Treatment usually satisfies family members or friends but the fixator is not usually enthusiastic about changing their mind. As one person said to me – “Why would I want to stop minding about Clean Eating if it meant I would start eating rubbish like you do”.


Fixators on a person are also unwilling to let go of their infatuation. What sets in here is “sunk cost thinking” – if this person is really a baddy, I will have to deal with all the regret about the time, the money and the emotional  investment I have wasted. Regret is an emotion that most of us want to avoid.

Our experience of treating fixations thus is that therapy is resisted. Removing the fixation does nothing to deal with the underlying anxiety that can surge to the fore.

Psychedelics

This is a contentious opinion, but I increasingly wonder if fixations can be tweaked by the use of Psilocybin or other psychedelic drugs. Carefully managed, they introduce fixators to an alternative reality. Fixations are about guarding a very fragile sense of self and during a guided “trip”, this sense of self is surrendered so that an alternative self can be installed.

I do not think that this would be helpful for someone with schizophrenia, so a careful assessment has to be done.  There is also the question of motivation. A fixator would want to be certain about the outcome of taking a psychedelic drug and may convinced that something bad would happen to them.

The Social Context

Fixations take place in a social context. Family members often confront the fixator – ineffectively- or accuse the fixator or ruining their life. Many behave as if they are treading on broken glass – which is stressful;  or the fixator withdraws to avoid more confrontation and pressure. Carers  often feel emotionally blackmailed – “Accept me as I am or get lost”.   They say that they have no choice other than to collude with the fixator. We see this with all kinds of issues, including anorexia.

Fixations thus destroy family harmony and cause ripples of mental harm to close relatives and friends.  Family members can become isolated, neglected, and lonely as the fixator pursues their lifestyle. A person fixated on, say, golf,  can leave their family members alone at weekends and fail to attend to their basic day-to-day needs both practical and emotional. Fixators reinforce their fixations by  bonding with others who share their views, thus reinforcing their “rightness”.

Groups of people who share an ideology gain a sense of superiority, that is alluring to the fixator who often has a fragile sense of worth. You see, we have special access to the truth, we are not in ignorance like everyone else.

People who live with a fixator need urgent help and support, independently of what is happening to their loved one.  At the very least they can say to the fixator, we are for now going to get help for our own feelings about what is going on.

If you are a carer, please don’t frame this up as “we are going to get advice for how to show you the error of your ways” because this is not going to help.

What kind of help carers receive depends on a full analysis of the situation as the family sees it together with any other information we can glean about the problem. There is no one-size-fits-all solution to living with fixations.

Therapy

If you have a loved one with a hyperfixation, we do have family therapists who can support you. Mental health problems are never easy and must be handled one step at a time.  If the issue is food, weight, food fads, or over-exercise, call 0845 838 2040 and see how we can help.

A conference of Interest

The Royal Society of Medicine Hosts a conference on the latest thinking for eating disorder treatment in late February 2023

Here it is. Always ready willing and able to upskill our wisdom and treatment

https://www.rsm.ac.uk/events/food-health/2022-23/fhr51/

Semaglutide – a quick-fix for weight loss?

Doctors are reporting a rush of patients asking for SEMAGLUTIDE which promises rapid weight-loss.  Even psychotherapists working with obesity are asking us about the value of these medications to “kick-start” weight-loss for their patients.

At the National Centre for Eating Disorders we have views about weight-loss medications and we are not provoked into a knee-jerk response. Some people call them “anti-obesity” drugs. Because this term risks causing stigma, let’s for now call these latest drugs “metabolic medications.”

The Risks of Weight Loss

Using tips and tricks learned at slimming clubs or in the media, anyone trying to lose weight on their own, is exposed to a host of dangerous mental and physical risks. Fat is not just “stuff” – it is a metabolic engine that is controlled by many different systems and that is well-defended.  People who want weight loss (as is their right) need a thorough assessment, tracing the course of their weight over the lifespan with a sympathetic and knowledgeable therapist who also looks at the family and other aspects of their lifestyle. We need to learn about their relationship with food, to see if there is an eating disorder present. This is because weight-loss never cures an eating disorder and weight-loss efforts can make things worse. For an explanation of why weight-loss efforts can cause and worsen an eating disorder like binge eating or bulimia, another blog is needed.

It is helpful to our readers to point out that not all people in larger bodies have an eating disorder. About 1 in 2 people who seek help for their weight issues have some form of eating disorder; that means many people in larger bodies do not have an eating disorder. Maybe they just like….  ummm (how do I say this) “fat-promoting” foods or they might have genes that make them gain weight more easily. We are not all the same. Nonetheless, people have agency and they have the right to choose how they want to live. They are misled to be told that there is no link between body fat, diet and disease.

The metabolic meds like Semaglutide are not designed to make people feel happier because of how they LOOK. Let’s be honest – looking different is a motivation for many people seeking weight loss. They will say, Oh I want to be healthier or fitter, but what they really mean is, I want to approve of myself when I look in the mirror. The metabolic meds are designed to make people healthier. The question is, do they?  Metabolic meds change aspects of metabolism and some drugs can improve cardiometabolic health.  To give my readers, clients and professional therapists a balanced view, let’s look at the pros and cons of Semaglutide

Benefits of Semaglutide

Semaglutide is a drug that affects a hormone called GLP-1 that is part of what we call the “incretin pathway”. This slows gastric emptying, making people feel fuller for longer and it affects some of the many hormones in the brain that control appetite. It is a drug that causes fast weight-loss and some people discover that their blood sugar profile improves, they may stop being diabetic.

As long as the drug is taken, Semaglutide also affects weigh-regain mechanisms in the brain. Alongside fat loss, the level of inflammation in the body improves. Very few people understand what “inflammation” means and how it relates to obesity. Inflammation is responsible for a great deal of illness including cancer. Inflammation can also be caused by stress, so for sure, stress and weight stigma can also make you ill.

A great many people think that taking a drug or having surgery to lose weight is cheating. This is unkind, because obesity is a complex metabolic condition that is affected by many things; some of which are out of our control. Each single person is affected differently by genes, our living environment, our personal biome, our early eating patterns, even the behaviour of our mothers when we were in the womb.  Now we know that going on a calorie-controlled diet is ineffective and potentially dangerous. But we cannot shrug our shoulders and just tell people that there is nothing we can do and more controversially, that people “should” welcome obesity into their lives.

Even while being sensitive to stigma, I do not remove hope or healing. If, for example, you have insulin resistance or diabetes Type 2, a metabolic drug will level your metabolic playing field and give you a better chance of widening your choices. What can be wrong with that?

The cons of Semaglutide

Metabolic meds do not change a person’s relationship with food, including the ways in which food is used as a fix or a way to regulate feelings. Most of us eat to manage our moods some of the time and some people do more comfort eating than others. Emotional eating is not just “in the mind” – some of us more than others are  “wired” to need more pleasure from food. How can I best explain this?  – well –  it is possible to develop faulty wiring because of long-standing eating patterns. Binge eaters, for example, usually develop resistance, deep in the brain, to the normal signals of pleasure when they have eaten something that they like. Now is not the time for me to explain how we can put this right;  but putting it right does NOT involve taking a metabolic drug.

Semaglutide can have a lot of unpleasant side effects like nausea and vomiting. More worryingly, as soon as you stop taking it, the weight piles back on. People wanting weight loss assume that losing weight is enough to make them able to keep it off.  In over 99% of cases, weight is not only regained but it is exceeded. The drug can make you end up fatter than you were before and this gives rise to shame and worry.  So, I would not do anything that makes a vulnerable client feel worse. My final concern is that we don’t know the long-term effects of manipulating pancreatic hormones. The drug industry is littered with the history of very adverse and sometimes fatal consequences.

So, when one of our therapists tell me that their client wants to take Semaglutide for a weight-loss fix, I tell them “NO”- do not go there for now.

The take-home

I am on the side of happiness and wellbeing. If there was a weight-loss drug that could be taken safely for life, that would help people look and feel better (in their mind anyhow) I would be all for it. I don’t believe in “cheating thinking”, because we are all born with different bodies and different challenges when it comes to what we choose to eat and how our body deals with it. 

At The National Centre for Eating Disorders, we do a deep, holistic assessment, to learn more about a person and their relationship with food before we make judgements. Clients in treatment for an eating disorder are discouraged from trying to lose weight and we attend to their body image, their feelings, their mindset, self-esteem and ability to self-care. We do not assault our patients with tyrannical views about how they “should” eat,  what they “should” weigh or how they “should” feel about their body size. If they are desperate and craving a metabolic drug, we give them the facts as we know them.

If you or someone you know is considering Semaglutide, or bariatric surgery, please don’t take action before having an assessment with a properly trained therapist.  This therapist will want to learn everything about your relationship with food and how it has gone astray. Email us at admin@ncfed  or call 0845 838 2040.

The Vegan

Alsana treatment service have done a study with dieticians who work with eating disorder clients. They have something to say about veganism and eating disorders. What follows does not apply to people who are vegetarian for religious reasons. Asana writes:

“In a survey we conducted with hundreds of dietitians who specialize in eating disorders, we found that 98% of eating disorder dietitians saw clients who followed a vegan eating style. Of these, 75% of vegan clients realized that their eating disorder was enmeshed with veganism, while 25% of clients realized the eating disorder was separate and veganism was a true value in their belief system”.

We ask, how does a client KNOW whether their veganism is a symptom of eating disorder behaviour. Most insist that they have genuine concerns for the planet, for animal welfare and for sustainability.

The clients whose vegan diet is mostly a symptom of the eating disorder, do not have a therapeutic space to  disentangle their veganism from eating disorder thinking. At the start of therapy most insist that veganism is essential to their identity.

At the NCFED we have many thoughts about veganism, while accepting how important it is at first. We want to know whether there are other hidden issues that make veganism a compelling dietary choice. Veganism has been linked to autism, to irrational contamination fears and to early attachment issues between a mother and her child during the developmental stage we sometimes refer to as Kleinian Rage! Freud may have linked eating choices to fears of oral impregnation. We have found that veganism and also vegetarianism can be associated with OCD especially if there is no flexibility in the person. In other words, would even thinking about eating a bit of fish cause a meltdown – or would it be OK if nothing else was available.

The vegan diet can lead to serious nutritional deficiencies such as choline, iodine, B vitamins and imbalances in essential fats that cannot always be rectified by vegan sources (especially Omega 3 fats). The effects on the neurochemicals of mood, metabolism and appetite can maintain eating disorder symptoms.

If veganism is a symptom rather than a true spiritual value for the 75% of patients identified in this study, the route to recovery must include broadening the choice of food. Supplements alone are not a good way to address the potential depletions of a vegan diet, because supplements lack the synergy of nutrients that exist in real food. Some people see supplements as an alternative to eating a balanced diet, and this is also part of eating disorder thinking.

No one has yet come up with a treatment that will confront the thinking that has led to their choices as well as to rebalance their physiology.  Recovery is not just about dealing with childhood adversity.

If your client is vegan or vegetarian, recovery may entail getting more variety into their diet. and oh my goodness, how this will be resisted! Can they become a flexitarian, and use some form of animal based foods as a medicine? Will they secretly consider themselves superior to you because they make more ethical choices? This will interfere with your therapy.

If you the healer are vegetarian or vegan, can you congruently help a person to expand their food choices? Will you see yourself as superior to your meat-eating client? This will interfere with your therapy.

Eating disorders are not just about feelings, they are also about food. A restrictive diet is not great for anyone with an eating disorder. The vegan / vegetarian client may need a great deal of informed and compassionate support to disentangle their values from their eating disorder symptoms and be more open with their choices.